Happy divorce may sound absurd to some people, but there are many Google searches for the phrase “happy divorce“.
From my communication with clients through the divorce proceeding, I see that most of them are happier on the last step of divorce – when they receive the divorce judgment. I would not say they are “happy”, but at least they seem relieved that the process has completed fast and
smoothly.
I am not a psychologist, I am a divorce attorney, but based on the experience of my clients I was able to observe different kinds of
divorces that I could characterize as a happy divorce for one or both spouses.
The first kind is the situation is when the spouses lived separately for a while and one of the spouses builds a new relationship and is ready to
re-marry. So, in this case a happy divorce is a step for entering happy marriage.
A second example of happy divorce is a situation that a couple lived together in a constant zone of war and did not think that they could
afford to divorce because their financial situation. Sometimes when the marriage gets so bad, their financial situation becomes secondary, the
relief from the tension in the marriage brings an element of happiness,,, a happy divorce.
After divorcing you might have a better understanding what kind of relationship you want and what kind of relationship you don’t want. For some people it is easier to enjoy their freedom without a new partner. Some people would be looking at forming a new relationship right away. Private dating agencies might be useful for some people who feel lonely.
According to statistic, women are happier after divorce in average.
When you file for divorce, your spouse would be served with summons, which says: “You have been sued”. Although, I am usually explaining to my uncontested divorce clients what it is an old common law language about “been sued” , generally one spouse sues another for something – alimony, child support or property division. Nobody could be happy to be involved in lawsuit. On the other hand, people who have a right approach would look at the process of divorce as formalities needed to be following in order to get a different marital status and solve some family issues as a mutually favourable business. At least in uncontested divorces we are placing our client in proper set of minds and make the process smooth, easy and comfortable. Contested divorce turns into a real lawsuit with litigation and it is a very burdensome, stressful, and a long process. Contested divorce way more far from happy divorce than amicable .
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